The Call To Adventure

Adventure-Awaits

This is Part 1 of a 3-part series of my journey, from stumbling on the Pick Up Artist community in my teens to finding out about Day Game and making it a LIFESTYLE.

Part 1 [You Are Here] – The Call To Adventure
Part 2From Rags To RICHES
Part 3 – Can Money Buy Happiness?

The Game - Neil StraussLet’s rewind 5 years ago…

I found out about the Pick Up Artist (PUA) community around the age of 16 when my mate recommended me “The Game” by Neil Strauss.

I found it fascinating! I had never come across something like this before.

Openers? Negs? DHV Routines?

WTF was all this mumbo jumbo?

I devoured books, watched videos and browsed the PUA forums to find out.

Learning the theory was great.

However I didn’t actually go out to clubs or bars and put this stuff into ACTION, because I was too young.

But at the ripe age of 18, I went off to study ‘Computer Science’ at the University of Manchester.

And There I Went A Bit… WILD!

My parents weren’t around to stop all the fun. Plus it was very “kind” of the government to LOAN me some money.

“Here you go... Here’s £5 grand for the year!

Run along now… we’ll be back to collect it when you’ve done your degree… Don’t spend it all at once!” (On weed and alcohol) Haha

Which is pretty much what I did.

I stopped going to lectures and went out clubbing 3-4 times a week instead. And the nights I didn’t… I’d smoke weed with my flat mates!

I was a very different person back then. My lifestyle now has completely changed.

I guess you can say I’ve “grown up”. But it was these times that allowed me to come out of my shell.

It Felt GREAT To Meet Loads Of New
People And Go To Parties

Something I was never used to back at home…

Unfortunately there was no balance between my social life and my uni work.

Having picked a course that required 40+ hours a week of studying – I quickly fell behind.

So far behind that I failed all of my exams halfway through the academic year. Programming was like learning a new alien language; “cram revision” simply didn’t work.

My only choice was to drop out and redo the first year.

I wasn’t too fussed, but…

My Parents Were Furious!

They refused to help me.

I had to pay for my food, nights out, rent, etc. And fair enough, I got myself into this mess; I’ll get myself out. So I took the first job I could find – a role as a charity fundraiser.

My job was to walk into random shops on the street and pitch people £5 scratch cards to raise money for the English Paralympic football team.

Great cause, but I’m pretty sure most of the money went into my boss’s pocket than towards aid for disabled athletes.

With the job commissions only, I earned fuck all. Some days I would literally sell 2 scratch cards and make like 50p.

Yep… 50p For 8 hours Work. YIPPEE!

I never even signed up to sell scratch cards.

I was told I’d be selling water meters door-to-door with a commission of £30 per sale. I realised I wasn’t going anywhere fast with this job… so after 2 weeks, I quit!

No phone call or email from the company… nobody rang to ask if I was OK or if anything had happened. I felt like a complete tool. Used and forgotten about.

As much as I hated the job back then, it actually turned out to be one of the most pivotal points of my life. I explain why in Part 2

TIP: If you’re getting into game, I highly recommend you find a job that FORCES you to speak to random people.

Anything like street fundraising or door-to-door sales is PERFECT to push you outside of your comfort zone and destroy that nasty approach anxiety. Plus you get paid for it! Just must sure to find a job that pays per hour and not just per sale. ;)

Although approach anxiety will never fully go away, it will pretty much become non-existent!

Do you not think that only after just a WEEK of having people ignoring me, laughing and getting rude, that I would be scared of rejection??

Sure, my ego took a hit the first few times, but…

Soon I Actually Started To ENJOY
People Rejecting Me

It got pretty funny seeing people being to start frowning or fidgeting…

Thinking of some excuse (which I’d most likely heard many times before) on why they couldn’t donate.

Starting To Sound Familiar?

Sounds a bit like approaching women. Right? ;)

When it comes to Day Game (or anything for that matter), most guys give up too quickly. They take rejection too personally.

Whenever you step outside of your comfort zone, you may be expecting instant tangible rewards like I did with the charity job or in my businesses. And it’s easy to get disheartened when you don’t see any change.

But trust me, in the background things are slowly clicking into place. You’ll see what I mean in Part 2  From Rags To RICHES.

Continue To Part 2 >>